This week I noticed a quality and simultaneous negative trait in myself that I was able to overcome!
I was talking to a colleague and giving them advice when it dawned on me that I’ve overcome one of my greatest struggles in my working life.
I was once upon a time unable to leave any stone unturned!
That doesn’t mean that I now leave a load of unturned stones nor does it mean that my quality of work has dipped. This just means that I have a better balance and although I sometimes relapse, for the most part, I am getting it right.
I couldn’t log off work or sleep if I didn’t finish a task. I would dream about that email, look visibly uncomfortable if I didn’t see to that review and hide in the corners of my home (outside of working hours) to go back to others on queries. One could argue that this attitude is why I was able to grow in my career, but this attitude is also why one weekend I was in bed with severe migraines absolutely run down!
I found that I was literally working every hour that God sent and not having any break up between work, home life, the weekend or quality couple time. I would pull out my laptop or work apps on my phone anywhere I could to get the job done! This wound up my husband and made me feel like I was being a bad mum.
It’s a process. Prioritisation is key as is boundaries! What needs to get done right now, what can wait and what can I delegate? These are 3 questions I ask myself and deal with tasks accordingly. I’m also very clear with my boundaries and availability – if I can’t get to something you’ve asked me to do, I will let you know or explicitly express how long it will be before what you’ve asked will be done (always giving myself buffer space to breathe). It’s not always about working hard, sometimes it’s about working smart and sharing the load.
Commitment to delivering excellence is amazing, being a good employee/colleague is admirable, but all of this is pointless if you keep popping out the golden eggs, but are forgetting to take care of the goose.
Work life balance.