If it doesn’t happen now, it never will…

Sometimes we put an irrational amount of pressure on ourselves to achieve our financial goals. When we aren’t feeling at our best, we beat ourselves up, especially when we unconsciously compare ourselves to our ‘age mates’ which at times can feel like they are winning this invisible race society has created.

Make no mistake, I don’t question the happiness of those people who have posted their version of success on social media (which at times could be glitter not gold) however, what I question is our ability to asses whether we are allowing said news to contribute to the ridiculous amounts of pressure we put on ourselves, all because:

“I’m almost *insert age here* and I’m not married”

“I’ve been working my butt off, but can’t seem to save” 

“I Should be further ahead in my career at my age”

“I should be buying my 1st home by now”

“I  *insert negative self talk*

Social media has amongst other things created urgency to achieve things simply because everyone on our feeds are sharing their wins all at the same time.

Once upon a time in what we now call the dark ages (before facebook) we didn’t really have exposure to so many other ‘lanes’. Of course we would hear about other people’s successes, but it wouldn’t be so in your face.

What’s your point Joseph?! In short I’m pretty certain we as a society have become impatient. We are a generation that thrives of INSTANT gratification. 

This is by no means a message to bash social media or encourage you to go off grid, but actually the key message I want you to take away from this is to stop. Take a breather. Stop putting yourself under the wrong kind of pressure. I guess it is a longer way of saying trust the process, and stay in your lane. 

Task:
Think about the thing that is distracting you from your lane, realign yourself and go at your pace. 

P.S. the more time you spend worrying and beating yourself up the less time you are spending on achieving your dreams. You’ve got this! 

2019 Retrospective

Thank you for your views and engagement from across the globe

August 24th 2018 – TellMeElleCee was born. An introductory post was published and so the journey began!

From August 26th 2018 – Throughout 2019 a variety of posts, Mortgage industry gold and financial hacks were shared. 

The following 18 topics have been dissected and explored:

Here’s to an informative 2020…

5 Year Plan

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So today we are going to discuss the 5 Year plan and the importance of having a plan. My 5 Year plan has never failed me and I have always accomplished what I’ve set out to achieve.

When I was 16 I started my 5 Year Plan and was able to achieve every single goal throughout the years and when time seemed to be closing in on me, I attained my final goal days before my 22nd Birthday.

So let’s dive right in to it, what type of goals did I set and how did I go about achieving them?

I had my key goals and these were broken down with sub goals or you could almost call them sub tasks that would catapult me closer to the main goal.

  1. Buy a House 21
  2. Start dating and be engaged 21
  3. Pass my driving test 21
  4. Be in my career job 21
  5. Gain weight 21
  6. Overcome complexes and step out of my comfort zone
  7. Be mentally strong. If you stand for something, don’t let an institution, work or anyone shake/break that.

As you can see, my goals were pretty vague, however the older I got, the more padding I added to them and by the end of the 5 Year period, I was in a much better position than I thought possible.

Over time, my goals became SMART:

  • Specific
  • Measurable
  • Attainable
  • Realistic
  • Timely

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  1. I completed on the purchase of my house 14 days before my 22nd Birthday
  2. I started dating at 19 and got engaged at 21
  3. I passed my driving test at 21
  4. I started working in a huge Financial Institution at 20 and embarked on my Mortgage Career
  5. I went up a dress size
  6. I overcame all personal weight related insecurities and my dress sense affirmed this!
  7. I’ve always been head strong, but I started to become apologetic about it and almost lost my own opinion and stance on given situations hence the goal. By 21 I was definitely mentally stronger and began to challenge the status quo. I stopped saying “yes” and started asking “why”?

Once I had achieved all of my goals, I began thinking about my next 5 year plan. I looked back on all that I had achieved, was extremely proud of my 16 year old self and decided to up the ambition and set new goals a few days before I turned 22. These goals will expire when I turn 26 – I have already achieved a few and am deep in the process of attaining the others. Will I make it? Yes I will!

TEMPLATE

If you’re having difficulties making goals, use the SMART guide above and break your goals down in to 7 Key areas

  1. Relationships (Intimate, family, friends etc)
  2. Investment (Buying a house, shares, business plan?)
  3. Career (Where do you want to be in 5 years? Get your foot in the field, attain relevant qualifications)
  4. Personal Development & mentality
  5. Health/Appearance
  6. Spirit, Character, Core (What do you stand for? Who are you? What are your beliefs?)
  7. Miscellaneous (Something you’ve always dreamed of)

I hope this has helped! I would love to hear your thoughts and goal attaining methods. Comment below or get in touch via my various platforms.

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5 Year Plan – Have you done yours?